When you type “what is the definition of motherhood” in google this is what pops up:
“The state of being a mother.” It forgets to mention the no sleep, being pooped on, or projectile vomited on. The tantrums in the middle of the grocery stores, the tornado that goes through your house on a daily basis. The stressfulness, the wanting to pull your hair out, and turning grey before your thirty.
They also forget to mention that your heart grows ten times bigger the first time you get to hold your precious angel. The tears you cry when they first learn to roll over, crawl, and take their first steps. See them smile for the first time. There first laugh. There first word, which lets be honest us mammas pray they say “mama” first! My daughter did thank goodness!
There are hundreds of books on parenting 101. I thought when I was pregnant that these books would prepare me for what was ahead. Boy was I wrong! NOTHING prepares you for parenthood, no matter what anyone says! You learn how to be a parent from experience. Let me tell you I made a billion mistakes, and I can own up to them.
I live at home with my parents, and when I first had my daughter let me tell you I heard the phrase “no that’s not how you do it” “that’s wrong” “you can’t feed her like that” “she’s to young for that.” I mean I heard it all. They raised me and my brother so they know what they’re talking about, but I am a new mom. I need to learn for myself, and make the mistakes. That’s how you grow as a person and a parent.
When I say nothing can compare you for being a parent or your future, I honestly and truly mean it. I did not plan on my daughter becoming sick with RSV. She was admitted into the hospital for an entire week.
I also did not plan on her having to have her tonsils, and adenoids taken out. Also to have tubes put in her ears. The picture below is her the next day after surgery. I still cry when I see the photo, because all I wanted to do was take her pain away.
Enough sad things! Kids are the greatest critics. Well and sometimes the worse! My daughter tells me every day I’m beautiful, and it makes me feel so blessed to have a kind and loving little girl. Don’t get me wrong she is not afraid to tell you how she feels, especially if she don’t like something.
Kids are crazy, and very funny! There is never a dull moment with kids! Whether its pretending to being super heroes, dressing up like fairy’s, or having an AWESOME dance party!
Before anything is said yes she is wearing my bra. Hey she was having fun! If there is ONE thing I have learned as a parent is as long as they are safe, happy, and content LEAVE THEM ALONE! Make sure there is nothing they can get to that can harm them, and then let them roam and be free!
When my daughter was a baby and learning how to crawl I always made sure to pick anything up that can harm her, put the baby gate up, some cartoons on, and let her go. I would go switch the laundry over or do the dishes. Of course I would check on her like every two minutes but she was always fine.
Another thing I have learned as a parent is when you say something to your child, make sure you stick to your word! If you tell them to clean up or they don’t get to go outside and play then make sure you mean it! I learned this the hard way, and now when I say something to my daughter I mean it.
When my daughter was younger she made the cutest, most silliest faces ever! I could be having the worst day and she would make one of these silly faces and make everything all better!
Cherish the little things with your children, and in life. Those little things are what will stick in your head forever. Even though my daughter talks back, throws HUGE tantrums, and wines for no reason. I still love her very much and I wouldn’t change her for the world. I have been on my own sense I was two weeks pregnant, and we are still here going strong and couldn’t be more happy.
Just remember when things get tough, you need to be strong for our little ones. They are the reason we want to become a better person. It is very hard being a parent, but to see there smiling faces everyday makes everything all better.
I would love to hear about your mommy stories. Feel free to comment pictures of your silly kids, or your parenting stories. I cant wait to see and hear from y’all.
I love you guys and thank you for supporting me on this journey!