Most people who do not have chronic anxiety don’t realize the daily struggle of having to live with it. I can not speak for anyone else but myself with my anxiety because everyone is different. In my case I am constantly insecure. I have been cheated on in every relationship I have ever been in so I constantly think I am being cheated on because it has happened in the past.
If a guy tells me that I am beautiful I never believe them because I have been told everyday that I am ugly, fat, a whale, and other vulgar names. If someone tells you that everyday you begin to believe no one will love you because your fat and ugly. If a man tells you that you’re not good enough and you never will be, and that’s the reason he is cheating on you. That really burns into your mind, and you realize wow you really aren’t good enough.
When you constantly feel insecure you can not fully move forward in a relationship. When there is no communication it only makes the anxiety worse. You constantly have this huge thick wall up, that is so hard to break down.
I have never been in a relationship where I have actually felt true love and happiness. Any girl wants to feel secure and genuine love when they are with someone. We do not want to feel insecure, fakeness, and unloved. No girl wants to ever feel that way. No man for that matter wants to feel that way either.
I know I have shared a lot of my anxiety struggles in my other blog posts, but in case you have not read them I wanted to give you a little back story before we jumped into this post! I’ll link two of my posts down below if your interested in reading them for more about my anxiety!
Let’s finally jump into this post about “How to date a girl with anxiety!”
There is no such thing as the perfect man or women, but to me my perfect man is:
- Patient with me when I am feeling very insecure
- A great communicator. Not only can they a hold a conversation, but when something is wrong they communicate it with me.
- Listening is something very important to me as well, I’m not one who likes to argue or picks fights. I want some who listens when I talk to them, and does not just tune me out.
- Calm. When I’m with someone and we are both stressed out I will feed off of them, which makes my anxiety even worse and more than likely will give me a panic attack.
- Trust is HUGE! If there is no trust in a relationship, there is no relationship.
- Someone who is helpful and great with kids.
I know that is asking a lot. Believe me I know it’s a lot, but these things do mean a lot to me. I feel like if any man truly loves me and cares for me he would try to understand my point of view on why I need the things I do.
It honestly and truly does take a lot to be with a girl who haves chronic anxiety. I wish that I didn’t have to live with this disorder, it is the most annoying and frustrating thing you could ever imagine. You feel like you are constantly trapped, and held back from pursing your dreams. The feeling of never being good enough, and constantly feeling insecure about every decision you make. It is so exhausting.
Something people don’t realize is how exhausting it really is. A normal stressful day to someone who doesn’t have anxiety is ten times more exhausting for someone who does. Then when someone tries to use your anxiety against you, like it’s nothing. One thing I can’t stand is when someone says “it’s all in your head” or “stop stressing it will be ok.” Not to sound rude but don’t you think if I could control it and stop stressing I would.
Just know if you are reading this and you have anxiety you are not alone. I am ALWAYS here for you guys. You can reach out to me in the comments. You can go to my “connect with me” page and you can send me an email, and I will gladly respond to you to help in any way I can.
I hope you guys enjoyed this post and as always I love you all so much<3